There are three phases
to the narcissist's relationships with women.
The ADMIRER: endows the
narcissist with the confidence needed to approach the woman (only his brain or
body are attractive, the rest and his personality are repulsive)
The PLAYMATE: includes
rudimentary courting, sex, and fun activities and simulates the typical
behaviors of a MAN in the initial stages of a relationship. Helps to deceive
both the narcissist and the woman into believing that he is a proper,
fully-evolved man (albeit childlike).
The MOTHER: makes the
narcissist feel safe, ensconced and immersed in unconditional love as a child.
The woman is then free to outsource her needs - including sex and intimacy -
with other men as long as she doesn't act maliciously or vengefully (to hurt
the narcissist), is committed to him, pledges to not abandon him, and doesn't
cross certain boundaries and provoke abandonment anxiety.